September strife follows summer sizzler

05 Sep 2006

As youngsters begin the new school term, many couples are opting for their own ‘new start’. Statistics show that September is one of the two peak times in the year for couples deciding to call it a day.

National divorce figures reported last week showed a fall in divorce rates, but September still remains one of the busiest periods for couples opting to divorce, second only to the New Year. For many families, far from being a relaxing break, the annual summer holiday is a time of huge stress. Instead of fixing troubled relationships, they can be the final straw. The financial strain after a family holiday and the reality of returning to work, combined with colder weather and darker nights drawing in can all put intolerable strain on a relationship.

Family law group Resolution is urging couples who choose to split to minimise the pain of relationship breakdown by avoiding the kind of bitter battles traditionally associated with divorce.

Acrimonious breakdowns can have a devastating effect on families, especially on children.

For the sake of the kids and the couple, Resolution recommends couples to:
Explore whether the relationship is really over. Consider taking relationship counselling.
Avoid having arguments in front of the children. Couples may decide no longer to be married to each other but, together or apart, they will remain parents to their children.
Keep the children informed of what is happening. Kids often know more than you think they do. They need reassurance that they are not the cause of the split.
If you decide that you are going to split, choose the right legal advice. Resolution’s 5000 independent lawyers are committed to easing the pain and the financial cost of family breakdown. Experienced in family law, they encourage couples to find solutions together.
Consider mediation - a process to help couples who have decided to separate or divorce to talk things through. Mediation reduces the tension and hostility associated with divorce and helps couples to make informed decisions that are right for their circumstances, as well as saving the cost of expensive court battles.
Consider a collaborative approach. Collaborative law involves couples and their lawyers reaching solutions together, helping to ease the pain of relationship breakdown. The couple sits down with their own solicitors, all together in the same room, and work out resolutions, face-to-face.

Resolution lawyers and mediators can help separating parents to reach agreements without the need for costly court battles. For more information about dealing with separation in this way, contact a Resolution member in the region. Members’ details are available at www.resolution.org.uk.