Parenting apart

If you are thinking about divorce or separation, one of your biggest worries is likely to be about your children: where they will live and how they will continue to have a meaningful relationship with both of you.

When you divorce or separate you continue to be parents. So it is important to make sure that the process of divorce or separation does not prevent you from cooperating on what is best for your children. A constructive approach will lay the best foundations for the children to feel settled with the new family situation.

Ask the expert: Resolution's Nigel Shepherd on parenting apart

Finding a way forward

Families come in all shapes and sizes and there are no magic answers. You know your children best, so you will be best able to consider the effects of your break-up on them and together find a solution that works for all of you. Agreements reached together by parents are more likely to work in the long term and be respected by the wider family. Family mediation services, together with Resolution mediators, collaborative family lawyers and solicitors, may be able to help you achieve this.

If you can't reach agreement you can ask the courts to decide the matter. Your solicitor will be able to advise you on the best way of doing this, without letting matters relating to children get tangled up in any financial disputes.

If you want to find out more about where you stand legally, visit our children, parents and the law pages.